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The Birth of the Marriage Wall January 24, 2011

Filed under: marriage — redeemingcarolyne @ 10:19 pm

This very photo was the start of what is to become the Marriage Wall. I was just flippin through the photos one day and came across this picture from about 5 years ago. I was  completely taken back because I sooooo loooonged for what I saw in the picture. In the last 4 years of hard time in our marriage, I forgot that for a moment we actually liked each other.

The sight of this picture fueled a flame that lead me to look through every single photo album I had and see if I could find any photos of us that represented two people who loved each other. I searched and searched for hours that same night and each time I found a pic I scanned  and saved it and thus the idea for the marriage wall was born.

Like all marriages mine has been tenaciously and continually attacked by Satan. Sadly, it has been mostly  defeated in a more than 15 year long battle for its life.

Here is a list of the many ways Satan has attacked us and tried to destroy us:                        Second marriage                                                                                                                                    Previous child                                                                                                                                        Different cultures                                                                                                                                   Alcoholism                                                                                                                                               Finances(or lack of there of)                                                                                                             Time                                                                                                                                                           Physical, verbal, & emotional abuse                                                                                             Intimacy                                                                                                                                                   Severe insecurities                                                                                                                               Personal brokeness                                                                                                                               Gross disrespect                                                                                                                                     Temptation of adultery                                                                                                                     Ignorance to God’s creation of marriage                                                                                   Sexual intimacy                                                                                                                                     Vicious tongue slaying                                                                                                                         Selfishness                                                                                                                                              Arguing & fighting                                                                                                                                  Hatred                                                                                                                                                       Opportunity to kill one another-No, I mean literally                                                           Commitment                                                                                                                                           Walk with Christ                                                                                                                             Abandonment                                                                                                                                         Loneliness

OK, there actually are many more,but I think you are starting to understand and

1995 He was 27 I was 22

probably can relate to at least one of the above.  All  these things are used as excuses for divorce, and if you let him, Satan will persist until he succeeds.

If there is one thing I have learned in this war(your marriage vs. Satan), it is that a marriage can ONLY survive and thrive with a cord of three strands.  My husband, My God, and myself

Ecclesiastes 4:12 Though one may be                                                                                               overpowered, two can defend themselves. A                                                                               cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

Even a “good marriage” will have to fight to survive and it won’t make it on its own.

Marriage has been the hardest thing I’ve had to do thus far in life. Yeah, even harder then 7 kiddos! There is no magic solution and no easy fixer. First, you need to understand who created this thing we call marriage and why.                                     Genesis 2:24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

I know we have all heard this verse a 100o times, but what if you read it again with  deeper understanding of its true meaning. God created marriage not us. A loving God, who created us in His own image, gives us the gift of marriage so we will have a partner, a helper, & children in our life while here on earth.

30 weeks pregers with baby #5

My marriage started with a handful of sins, not exactly putting the odds in our favor. Since then we have failed far more than we have succeeded. So, what does one do, just concede to the world view that it just wasn’t meant to be? Or maybe there’s just too much hurt, too much pain? Or how about, I just screwed up and shouldn’t have married him in the first place? No, No, & heck No! You draw closer and deeper into Him and what His word says. Take in all His truths, give Him all your pain, & allow Him to fill you with the knowledge to go out & be the wife He created you to be. Not to instantly fix your marriage, not to instantly make your husband what you think he should be, but to show you what you are supposed to be.

Kinda funny, you turn to God with all your whining & complaining about the other person and all He wants to do is work on you! So, now I will begin to build the marriage wall and I can’t wait to share in this healing and redemption from our Lord!


4 Responses to “The Birth of the Marriage Wall”

  1. Teri Miller Says:

    Okay, I love, love the pictures. LOVE this HOPE I can hear in you. The faith & expectation to hope for the miracle of God’s Hand in your marriage. YES! Eager to see what this ‘marriage wall’ thing is gonna be…

    • Kinda amazing what a picture can do. I am ridiculously visual, so I can understand the impact. Don’t ya love when you look at a photo or a couple in real life and without any words you can actually feel their love? It takes a powerful, true love to do that.

  2. melodie Says:

    Yes, these are fabulous photos, Carolyne! This is a great idea, putting and keeping the vision – of what you desire AND what God desires – before you.
    Even better, before the both of you!

    • Thank you Melodie! He is doing some kind of work in me that will result in us, now all I have to do is cooperate. The more hardships I go through the more glorious His grace.
      God bless,

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