I wrote this story this past December and entered it in a story contest hosted by Vision Forum http://www.visionforum.com/start.aspx. I did not expect to win though that would have been nice since the thousand dollars would have gotten me to Texas this July, but I did not. The experience of writing this was so awesome as God was speaking so clearly at that moment in time.
For the past month I have been going through Emerson Eggerichs’ book Love and Respect as well as watching the group study videos. Repeatedly I am brought to so many parallels and relevant truths that I felt I had to share what my eyes have been opened to SEE. In one of his sessions Dr. Eggerichs talked about feminism and a sinking boat. Would not even a feminist aboard the sinking Titanic be in favor of women and children first? I don’t think there would be a protest there!
In order to shed light on Women and children we must also shine the light on men. We can’t have one without the other…can we! What exactly does God say about the role and the character of men and women? What about the children…..do we, as Christians, understand what God has to say about His children?
If I embrace the inner being, the deep seeded need within a man would Women and Children first really become clearer? Ephesians 5:23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. So right here is a clear call upon husbands to lead. When I look up head in the dictionary I find the definition the position or place of leadership, greatest authority, or honor. Can you hear those powerful words, leadership, authority, and honor? Then in verses 25 & 33 husbands are commanded to love their wives. It seems that God commands us to do things because they go precisely against every human inclination we have. That fact that God has to command men to do this does speak loudly as to not only they are not naturally wired to give this kind of love, but also to their deepest need. This doesn’t seemingly flow out of a man because it is not what he innately needs. For a man to receive honor and respect is to receive love. In the second part of Ephesians 5:33 a wife is commanded to respect her husband…why? Because God knows that this essential for a man to survive. Again reaffirming without question who a man is in Christ.
Why are so many unruly teenage and older young men sent off to the military? More times than not these men not only become productive but outstanding men of honor…..why? On a daily basis they are being trained in their deepest inner needs, leadership, authority, honor, and respect. When this need is fed and shaped these men are compelled with great dignity and esteem to die for one another. How else could a man willingly and even without fear give up his life, because he is acting upon the core of who God created him to be.
Ephesians also reveals what a wife is to do as well as what she needs to survive. Verse 5:23 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. Submit is defined as to give over or yield to the power or authority of another, to allow oneself to be subjected to some kind of treatment, or to defer to another’s judgment, opinion, decision. Surrendering and trusting in my husband just as I daily surrender and trust in my Lord. In obeying that command I am not only being faithful to the Word, but I also am fulfilling one piece of my husband’s deepest need TO LEAD. It takes greater strength and obedience to submit then to rebel and in doing so one will discover a great fruit that is produced.
Fulfilling your role as a woman only removes the barriers for a man to fulfill his God ordained role. What enables a man to lead his family so well? That mighty command in verse 33 and the wife must respect her husband. Through submitting in obedience to God (which is the only way to submit or ya really aren’t submitting at all…are you?) and unconditionally respecting a husband, how can he not be compelled to be your hero unto death!
Ephesians 33 not only commands a wife to love her husband but it also commands a husband to love his wife…..why? Love is a woman’s innate nature and her deepest NEED. God knew what He was doing when He created a woman to carry a child in the womb and to nourish that babe by nursing him. It is out of her God given nature that she can do these things so well. I didn’t say it was easy, but she does do them well. Let’s say we are in the woods taking a hike and out of the forest charges a bear. The first gut reaction of a man would be to find a weapon and attack the bear risking his own life. What would be the first reaction of the woman? She would grab hold of those children of hers and thrust them towards her for dear life and immediately seek a safer location….would she not?
A child, none of us reached adulthood without being one first. Psalm 36:7 How precious is Your lovingkindness, O God! Therefore the children of men put their trust under the shadow of Your wings. The peace that flows when I visually imagine resting under the wings of God. He is our great and embracing wing here to protect His precious creations……His little children.
Matthew 18:1-5 At that time the disciples came to Jesus, saying, “Who then is greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” Then Jesus called a little child to Him, set him in the midst of them, and said, “Assuredly, I say to you, unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore whoever humbles himself as this little child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. Whoever receives one little child like this in My name receives Me. Receiving a child is receiving Christ. The innocence, the deepest of honesty, and the purest of purity in a child. The immature mind so unknown to the many knowns. Whom of us wouldn’t be willing to save one?
Psalm 127:3 Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward. Heritage is defined in the dictionary as something that comes or belongs to one by reason of birth. Children come to you because He gave them to you. That is so powerful and as if not enough the verse goes on to say that they are a reward. This magnificent, spectacular, and challenging being is my reward from God….I am in absolute awe. God’s rewards, the children that come from and belong to…..Him are given to us to be treasured and dearly protected.
In accepting and relishing God’s commands to submit and give unconditional respect I will find myself receiving the blessing of being protected and loved through a man’s great honor. The more I sculpt and magnify my God-given ability to unconditionally love these children the greater will my ability be to embody my cherished gifts.
So is women and children first Biblical? His truths are clear and ever convicting all one has yet to do….is believe them.